The mind feasts on what it focuses on. What consumes my thinking will be the making or the breaking of my identity *
I don't have all of the answers, but I do know that it starts with us, and only us.
It starts by familiarizing ourselves with all of the intricacies that make us so lovely, interesting, and unique.
It starts by becoming friends with yourself and interacting as you would with a good friend (i.e., friends don't tear their friends down, they encourage, they support, they are accountable, they are life giving).
It starts by recognizing that houses fall if the foundations are decayed or broken - identify those areas within your identity that feel so fragile, so broken, so decayed. Sit with them, get help for them, and work on them.
The mind feasts on what it focuses on.
I've been working on some of the questions below, and when it comes to this long and hard process, this is where I needed to start.
What rejection, hurt, or insecurity, have you been focusing on? How is that serving you?
What comment, reaction, or situation makes you feel an overwhelming sense of rejection? Why is that? What does that rejection say about who you are or who you believe yourself to be?
I have a weakened ability to stand in front of a rejection and still hold onto the truths about who I am.
So I'm working on it.