I'm thinking about gaining.This time of year, our society tends to function around the idea of losing. Losing weight, cutting back on social media, TV, sugar - whatever it is. We set goals in December to start working toward at the beginning of January. We spend money on plans, apps, gadgets - anything that will help us obtain the deficits we need. I often wonder if we focused our attention on gaining rather than a deficit, would we find a renewed sense of wonder and passion for our day to day lives? When we operate from a position of "I GET to add this" it can shift our perspectives toward the goals we set as a result. We are too harsh with ourselves. Too image focused, too hungry to...
L I S T E N. There are many conversations I've missed in my life. Either I was too busy, too distracted, too focused on my response, or too tired to truly listen. There is a major difference between hearing and listening. I can hear what someone is saying - the tone of their voice and notice words coming out of their mouth - without actually listening to them.It's embarrassing. You know, to have a full conversation with someone and not be able to summarize what they said.And then, we expect others to listen to us and are discouraged or frustrated when they don't. Can anyone else relate? Have you ever been listened to? I'm talking about having the full, undivided, genuine...
When I throw a party or prepare something special for my friends and family I want it to be right. I want it to be seamless and impressive. I want it to be perfect. And guess what? It never is. I've made plenty of things that were slightly under baked, over seasoned, or room temp by the time my guests ate. I've forgotten to light the candles on tables, left the flowers in the garage, and forgotten to sweep the bathroom floor a countless number of times. I've forgotten and been ashamed by my less than perfect performance. Oh, and I've made the mistake of attempting homemade donuts. All in the name of winning approval. Can I let you in on a little secret? It isn't about...